This being lazy thing is a result of taking too much college working (At a place I hate) and having a personal life in the winter. All of this has made it so that I would forget to do the little things that I should have like kept up on my blog, So I do apologise for that. Well my personal life was having some issues as well and I let some of the rules slip. Once again the tank in the car and the mess in the car were at the top of the list I even managed to forget to register until the last min, making my case look worse. I know I wasn’t going to get out of this one, it was just a question at this point of when not if. Not to mention that his elbow has healed nicely and he was eager to try it out with the new paddle. Well on Sunday night he asked me to come in to the bedroom, this can either be good or bad. I turned the corner and knew that is was bad because he was sitting on the bed with the paddle in his hand. This is the part where I always hesitate. I almost cant help it. I always say that I will be brave and march in and take it but that has yet to have happened. Anyways after my sad attempts, that has only made him angrier, he laid down the law and pull down my jeans and pushed me across his lap. I knew it was going to be a hard one because he was holding down my legs with one of his. He had me tell him the rules I broke and why I did and then he started the spanking to my relief it was just his hand. OH but this was a trick, he started with his hand to warm me up a bit before the real punishment began no long into it he changed to the paddle I was concentrating on trying not to make Any noise and so I lost count and had no Idea when it would be over. I am proud that I didn’t cry but I still learned a lesson on being lazy and have been doing my Best to remedy the problem
Poke the bear
ok so you all have heard the phrase “don’t poke the bear” and I am here to tell you that this is a good bit of advise to follow. Recently my husband broke his right elbow at work and due to this has been put in a cast. I thought this would be good in that my worries about rules was out the window (my husband is right handed). I know I know rules are good and I agreed to this and all the other arguments that mean I shouldn’t be excited about no rules, but come on who isn’t excited by a little freedom now and then? Anyways I have always been and always will be sort of a smartass, I consider this a positive trait and he does not. I figured there would be no harm in having a bit of fun while I was off the hook. Now that I am writing this it really doesn’t sound smart, but I did some things intentionally that I wouldn’t normally get away with to see how far I could push things. For example I let the car get almost to empty (It gave me a little glee) and I let some clothes pile up on the bathroom floor (not as much fun a lazy). I know these don’t sound like major offences but it gave me a kick just the same. Well let me tell you I think that my husband’s left arm is stronger than his right, either that or he just put some umph into it. He started by asking me what I thought I was doing with the whole clothes on the floor thing. I then answered in a not so nice way telling him that I was allowed to slip every now and then. He was getting frusterated and that is when it happened…I poked the bear. I am not really sure what I was thinking but I suddenly said “and I let the gas light come on in the car,…what are you going to do about it.” Needless to say this was the WRONG thing to say at any moment not only when he is already mad. Trust me poking the bear hurts in the end. I would like to say that it will never happen again, that I learned my lession and I will not doubt his athority again, but I am not that out of touch with reality. Did I learn a lesson? Yes. Do I think it will be awhile before I make the same mistake? Yes. But do I think that I will never poke the bear again? More than likely, No. Not that I will mean too, just that sometimes I lose the battle with what is the right thing to do and what my mouth wants to say. Well maybe next time I will use a stick when I poke the bear and keep a bit of distance. 
busy couple of weeks
ok so I have been running around the country getting stuck in the airport and almost missing my boat for a little over a week. I am spent, sorry that I have not written in awhile but I have been busy! I will write more as soon as I get a chance. Happy Holidays! Kiss Kiss……..
Lady
Every time!
I know now that when my husband says your are cruising for a bruising, it could be true. I got in to some trouble and he used the new paddle, let’s just say it hurts. I only realized that my behind had already taken a beating when I went snowboarding today, well the combination of the two has given me a bruised butt! On top of that it was the car that got me into the trouble I was in in the first place. I am beginning to despise the car. It never fails my husband wont touch my car for a week and the one day he gets in to drive it the gas gage is below 1/4 tank. Sometimes I think they plan it, down in the garage conspiring against me, what Else could they be doing in there?(J/K I’m not that crazy). it was just one of those days where everything aligns and it is going to be a bad one. Good thing I am an optimist….although I can’t find a positive in having a bruised butt. If you know of one let me know so I can keep it in mind. Until then I will have to loath the car like it is doing it on purpose every time I get popped.
lonely
I realize that if you are in a relationship that is a bit unconventional it is going to be difficult to talk about it with other people and to get the support system that you need to keep going. Sometimes you can feel like you are the only couple out there that is facing your current dilemma I am currently in a spot like this and I am feeling lonely. My husband is busy with his dating and chatting to friends about his future plans. I know that I should be patient, but every church that we have tried will teach you that it was OK for the profits to have more than one wife just read genesis if the bible is your answer.But on the other had they condemn plural marriage saying is is a sin I just don’t understand it. But it is still so unaccepted here in the US it is hard to find help and support groups that you can go to and hang out with. You know how singles have parties and clubs, people with children. It would just be great to go to a BBQ or something and not have to lie about who the members of your family were or only half of them get to go because of the family secret. It is not clear to me why we can bring grandpa (with a drinking problem) to an open bar wedding but not bring your whole family if you are in a plural marriage.
OK so I got off topic slightly what I was really going for was the fact that I am lonely and there is really no place or person that I can talk to that would understand or that I would even be able to click with because we have the marriage in common. I would love to have a pen pal from one of the communities that supports this type of marriage just so we can tell each other our feelings and bond a bit. I hate keeping secrets or having to lie so we have decided to tell out families and then it will be up to them to either withdraw or be supportive. But I want to be able to connect with a person going through some of the same things. If you have any ideas or you know of someone please have them e-mail me or comment my page. OK it is 3am here and I have to be at work at 6 so I should get going. Have a happy holiday season if I don’t chat with you till then.
a new prospect…
To night I spoke with a very nice girl on-line who wanted to know what works for me in a plural marriage, she and my husband had been talking on line for a few weeks and he has been honest with her about what we are looking for and why. I guess she just needed to know that I was not a mindless robot or anything.
It actually works out kinda nicely for me as in the work load around the house would be less and I would know someone would be there for him if I could not, such as with school, or that I can’t have the children we would love. It would be nice to have another adult member of the family to see their viewpoints on things or to help out when the hubby makes an unfair rule or something. Someone to back you up and that you can talk to. That is why we are both involved in the process of choosing possible candidates. It has to be a person that we both get along with a wife for him and a sister for me.
The hardest thing to try and explain to someone new is that we are not strict religious people or members of a cult or something along those lines. We just look at what we think would be right for our family.
Anyway this girl I was talking to was still a little concerned about being in a three way relationship, I told her it wasn’t like that at all I do not have a thing for girls and as far as I am concerned what goes on in your marriage bed is up to you and him, I am not involved in that aspect of your lives at all.
Overall she was a sweet woman with a lot of questions and was very open minded. I hope to get to meet her in person one day, even just to be friends. The hardest part of this type of relationship is worrying about the stigma that comes with it. There are a lot of crazy people out there who practice polygamy but there are also some normal ones, it is the normal ones you don’t here too much about because, well….they are normal. This makes even friendships hard to come by who you can open up to and tell them about you life and a huge step you want to take.
We will see how things progress and workout and I will let you know more.
new and improved
Well those rules I broke with the car finally caught up with me yesterday. My husband decided to use his new paddle. While I am OTK he asks me if I like the new and improved paddle. I kinda have a smart mouth, but in this case I was not going to open it! I said no being honest. What I was thinking was, just because it is new don’t make it improved 
However my behind was already sore so I kept that to myself.
This new paddle is an upgrade from our old one. It is hardwood and there as a few holes down the middle. Our last one was leather with a fuzzy side and it had a rod in the middle that gave it it’s sting. It did not hold up very well and to make a long story short, I broke the rod inside with my butt! It was really just poor quality because when we started we really didn’t know what we were getting into equipment wise. Now that we have done a ton of research we have found the one that is right for us. I do suggest that everyone research what will work the best for them.
recently most of my issues have been about my attitude, I actually dared him to spank me the other day *not smart*. he suggested doing maintenance sessions to keep me on track. I am not sure about them. I am worried that all they will do is make me sore and figure that I will get spanked anyways so why bother following the rules. What I have read about it gives mixed reviews about them. If anyone has an opinion on this I would be thankful for the advice. I need to make my decision about it and get back to him so we can update our contract.
What do you think I should do? Is is worth the benefits?
Rules
Ok so many people are asking all over the web about rules in domestic discipline households, what are they? What is the punishment? and so on….all I can say is that they are different in every household. Our rules for example include no picking and no leaving used tea bags out in the cups by the sink. Both of which are very personal to me and my husband and would not apply to everyone in a DD relationship.
The punishments are up to my husband, it depends on the infraction and the situation, for example if it is the thrid time this week the punishment may be more severe than if I haven’t broken that rule in a year. Sometimes I just need a reminder and sometimes I need more than that.
I would say our biggest issue is disrespect on my part. When we argue I like to call him not nice things which can get me in to trouble. He is good at giving me a little grace if he loses his temper as well though. I just have a hard time with being yelled at. I would rather get a spanking than be yelled at. I’m not really sure why that is but it is.
Any ways I should be going for the evening, please if you have any questions for me or about DD I welcome them and I will do my best to answer them. Sometimes questions are the best way for me to remember some of the details that I forget, so please feel free to jog my memory.
The car is a pain…
Ok so we have some rules about the car. They are that I keep the car clean and that the gas tank cannot be less than a quarter of a tank (1/4 full). These are not hard or unfair rules by any means but keeping up with them can be a huge pain. First of all the cleanliness of the car is left up to his opinion, which is normally different than mine. I think that if I am transporting something or I leave some object in the car for a future event it should not count, he disagrees. He thinks that the car should be neat all the time not just when I am not using it.
The gas thing is the biggest thing for me because sometimes in life you just get busy. I know that it is a safety thing and it really is a good rule, it is just that I feel like I get punished for being a busy person sometimes. Not only that but it seems to never fail that when I get to a quarter of a tank that he is always driving. Any ways today he used my car to go to the store and I left my summer tires as well as some bags of mission stuff in the back seat and the tank was just below a quarter of a tank, which would be two rules broken in less than a minute! So I am waiting for the inevitable, I know punishment is coming it is just a question on when.
Sometimes it is hard to live following someone else’s rules all the time, but I know that everything we do is agreed on and that as adults we discuss all of the issues such as why a rule was broken and why a punishment is being given, but that really doesn’t make my hind end feel any better!
2 am
Well here I am it is 2 in the morning and I am not the least bit tried. I am trying the tricks but they have failed me tonight. I have one more thing that I am going to try and that is the warm milk wives tail. I am putting this in the DD file becauase of this action I missed my bedtime, and that could lead to a discussion where if I am rude…well I will keep you updated….hopfully…Goodnight.
