Archive for November, 2008

a new prospect…

{ November 26, 2008 @ 8:14 am } · { Everyday, Plural Marriage }
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To night I spoke with a very nice girl on-line who wanted to know what works for me in a plural marriage, she and my husband had been talking on line for a few weeks and he has been honest with her about what we are looking for and why.  I guess she just needed to know that I was not a mindless robot or anything.

It actually works out kinda nicely for me as in the work load around the house would be less and I would know someone would be there for him if I could not, such as with school, or that I can’t have the children we would love.  It would be nice to have another adult member of the family to see their viewpoints on things or to help out when the hubby makes an unfair rule or something. Someone to back you up and that you can talk to.  That is why we are both involved in the process of choosing possible candidates.  It has to be a person that we both get along with a wife for him and a sister for me.

The hardest thing to try and explain to someone new is that we are not strict religious people or members of a cult or something along those lines.  We just look at what we think would be right for our family.

Anyway this girl I was talking to was still a little concerned about being in a three way relationship, I told her it wasn’t like that at all I do not have a thing for girls and as far as I am concerned what goes on in your marriage bed is up to you and him, I am not involved in that aspect of your lives at all.

Overall she was a sweet woman with a lot of questions and was very open minded.  I hope to get to meet her in person one day, even just to be friends. The hardest part of this type of relationship is worrying about the stigma that comes with it.  There are a lot of crazy people out there who practice polygamy but there are also some normal ones, it is the normal ones you don’t here too much about because, well….they are normal. This makes even friendships hard to come by who you can open up to and tell them about you life and a huge step you want to take.

We will see how things progress and workout and I will let you know more.

new and improved

{ November 25, 2008 @ 10:09 am } · { Domestic Discipline, Uncategorized }
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Well those rules I broke with the car finally caught up with me yesterday.  My husband decided to use his new paddle.  While I am OTK he asks me if I like the new and improved paddle.  I kinda have a smart mouth, but in this case I was not going to open it! I said no being honest.  What I was thinking was, just because it is new don’t make it improved :P However my behind was already sore so I kept that to myself.

This new paddle is an upgrade from our old one.  It is hardwood and there as a few holes down the middle.  Our last one was leather with a fuzzy side and it had a rod in the middle that gave it it’s sting.  It did not hold up very well and to make a long story short, I broke the rod inside with my butt! It was really just poor quality because when we started we really didn’t know what we were getting into equipment wise.  Now that we have done a ton of research we have found the one that is right for us. I do suggest that everyone research what will work the best for them.

recently most of my issues have been about my attitude, I actually dared him to spank me the other day *not smart*. he suggested doing maintenance sessions to keep me on track.  I am not sure about them.  I am worried that all they will do is make me sore and figure that I will get spanked anyways so why bother following the rules.  What I have read about it gives mixed reviews about them. If anyone has an opinion on this I would be thankful for the advice.  I need to make my decision about it and get back to him so we can update our contract. 

What do you think I should do? Is is worth the benefits?

Rules

{ November 21, 2008 @ 7:36 am } · { Domestic Discipline, Uncategorized }
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Ok so many people are asking all over the web about rules in domestic discipline households, what are they? What is the punishment? and so on….all I can say is that they are different in every household.  Our rules for example include no picking and no leaving used tea bags out in the cups by the sink.  Both of which are very personal to me and my husband and would not apply to everyone in a DD relationship.

The punishments are up to my husband, it depends on the infraction and the situation, for example if it is the thrid time this week the punishment may be more severe than if I haven’t broken that rule in a year. Sometimes I just need a reminder and sometimes I need more than that.

I would say our biggest issue is disrespect on my part. When we argue I like to call him not nice things which can get me in to trouble.  He is good at giving me a little grace if he loses his temper as well though.  I just have a hard time with being yelled at. I would rather get a spanking than be yelled at. I’m not really sure why that is but it is.

Any ways I should be going for the evening, please if you have any questions for me or about DD I welcome them and I will do my best to answer them.  Sometimes questions are the best way for me to remember some of the details that I forget, so please feel free to jog my memory.

The car is a pain…

{ November 16, 2008 @ 2:56 am } · { Domestic Discipline }
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Ok so we have some rules about the car.  They are that I keep the car clean and that the gas tank cannot be less than a quarter of a tank (1/4 full).  These are not hard or unfair rules by any means but keeping up with them can be a huge pain.  First of all the cleanliness of the car is left up to his opinion, which is normally different than mine.  I think that if I am transporting something or I leave some object in the car for a future event it should not count, he disagrees. He thinks that the car should be neat all the time not just when I am not using it.

The gas thing is the biggest thing for me because sometimes in life you just get busy.  I know that it is a safety thing and it really is a good rule, it is just that I feel like I get punished for being a busy person sometimes.  Not only that but it seems to never fail that when I get to a quarter of a tank that he is always driving.  Any ways today he used my car to go to the store and I left my summer tires as well as some bags of mission stuff in the back seat and the tank was just below a quarter of a tank, which would be two rules broken in less than a minute!  So I am waiting for the inevitable, I know punishment is coming it is just a question on when.

Sometimes it is hard to live following someone else’s rules all the time, but I know that everything we do is agreed on and that as adults we discuss all of the issues such as why a rule was broken and why a punishment is being given, but that really doesn’t make my hind end feel any better!

2 am

{ November 15, 2008 @ 10:41 am } · { Domestic Discipline }
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Well here I am it is 2 in the morning and I am not the least bit tried.  I am trying the tricks but they have failed me tonight.   I have one more thing that I am going to try and that is the warm milk wives tail.  I am putting this in the DD file becauase of this action I missed my bedtime, and that could lead to a discussion where if I am rude…well I will keep you updated….hopfully…Goodnight.

First post

{ November 15, 2008 @ 6:17 am } · { Domestic Discipline, Everyday, Plural Marriage, Uncategorized }
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Please take a look at my introduction and tell me what you think, more to come.

Hi I’m Lady, I know, named totally after a dog, blame my parents for that one. I am sure they were thinking of how their kid could get made fun of with the last name I had and…here I am with the name Lady. Anywho I am writing this blog because I really need an outlet for some of my thoughts and feelings (eewww girly stuff). My husband and I live what some people would think of as an alternative lifestyle. This is because of two things, First we practice domestic discipline. For those of you scratching your head, it is when one of you punishes the other for bad behavior (sounds worse than it is). Second my husband and I are looking for a second wife. Let’s get the this strait I am the one who suggested both of these things so don’t think my husband is an overbearing jerk or anything. We know what works for us and we go for it.
I am a happy person most of the time and I like to have fun and meet all types of people. I love to travel and have been all over the world. I am fascinated by other cultures and although I don’t agree with all of them I still would like to learn as much as I can about them. I love animals and because of that I don’t eat meat, however I don’t expect others to do the same, if you are going to eat meat you are going to eat meat.
We currently do not have any children, I can not, this is part of the reason that we are looking for wife #2 so that my husband can have some.
Well that is about it for now if you want to know more read the blog that is what it is there for!

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