To night I spoke with a very nice girl on-line who wanted to know what works for me in a plural marriage, she and my husband had been talking on line for a few weeks and he has been honest with her about what we are looking for and why. I guess she just needed to know that I was not a mindless robot or anything.
It actually works out kinda nicely for me as in the work load around the house would be less and I would know someone would be there for him if I could not, such as with school, or that I can’t have the children we would love. It would be nice to have another adult member of the family to see their viewpoints on things or to help out when the hubby makes an unfair rule or something. Someone to back you up and that you can talk to. That is why we are both involved in the process of choosing possible candidates. It has to be a person that we both get along with a wife for him and a sister for me.
The hardest thing to try and explain to someone new is that we are not strict religious people or members of a cult or something along those lines. We just look at what we think would be right for our family.
Anyway this girl I was talking to was still a little concerned about being in a three way relationship, I told her it wasn’t like that at all I do not have a thing for girls and as far as I am concerned what goes on in your marriage bed is up to you and him, I am not involved in that aspect of your lives at all.
Overall she was a sweet woman with a lot of questions and was very open minded. I hope to get to meet her in person one day, even just to be friends. The hardest part of this type of relationship is worrying about the stigma that comes with it. There are a lot of crazy people out there who practice polygamy but there are also some normal ones, it is the normal ones you don’t here too much about because, well….they are normal. This makes even friendships hard to come by who you can open up to and tell them about you life and a huge step you want to take.
We will see how things progress and workout and I will let you know more.
