ok so you all have heard the phrase “don’t poke the bear” and I am here to tell you that this is a good bit of advise to follow. Recently my husband broke his right elbow at work and due to this has been put in a cast. I thought this would be good in that my worries about rules was out the window (my husband is right handed). I know I know rules are good and I agreed to this and all the other arguments that mean I shouldn’t be excited about no rules, but come on who isn’t excited by a little freedom now and then? Anyways I have always been and always will be sort of a smartass, I consider this a positive trait and he does not. I figured there would be no harm in having a bit of fun while I was off the hook. Now that I am writing this it really doesn’t sound smart, but I did some things intentionally that I wouldn’t normally get away with to see how far I could push things. For example I let the car get almost to empty (It gave me a little glee) and I let some clothes pile up on the bathroom floor (not as much fun a lazy). I know these don’t sound like major offences but it gave me a kick just the same. Well let me tell you I think that my husband’s left arm is stronger than his right, either that or he just put some umph into it. He started by asking me what I thought I was doing with the whole clothes on the floor thing. I then answered in a not so nice way telling him that I was allowed to slip every now and then. He was getting frusterated and that is when it happened…I poked the bear. I am not really sure what I was thinking but I suddenly said “and I let the gas light come on in the car,…what are you going to do about it.” Needless to say this was the WRONG thing to say at any moment not only when he is already mad. Trust me poking the bear hurts in the end. I would like to say that it will never happen again, that I learned my lession and I will not doubt his athority again, but I am not that out of touch with reality. Did I learn a lesson? Yes. Do I think it will be awhile before I make the same mistake? Yes. But do I think that I will never poke the bear again? More than likely, No. Not that I will mean too, just that sometimes I lose the battle with what is the right thing to do and what my mouth wants to say. Well maybe next time I will use a stick when I poke the bear and keep a bit of distance. 
Archive for December, 2008
Poke the bear
busy couple of weeks
ok so I have been running around the country getting stuck in the airport and almost missing my boat for a little over a week. I am spent, sorry that I have not written in awhile but I have been busy! I will write more as soon as I get a chance. Happy Holidays! Kiss Kiss……..
Lady
Every time!
I know now that when my husband says your are cruising for a bruising, it could be true. I got in to some trouble and he used the new paddle, let’s just say it hurts. I only realized that my behind had already taken a beating when I went snowboarding today, well the combination of the two has given me a bruised butt! On top of that it was the car that got me into the trouble I was in in the first place. I am beginning to despise the car. It never fails my husband wont touch my car for a week and the one day he gets in to drive it the gas gage is below 1/4 tank. Sometimes I think they plan it, down in the garage conspiring against me, what Else could they be doing in there?(J/K I’m not that crazy). it was just one of those days where everything aligns and it is going to be a bad one. Good thing I am an optimist….although I can’t find a positive in having a bruised butt. If you know of one let me know so I can keep it in mind. Until then I will have to loath the car like it is doing it on purpose every time I get popped.
lonely
I realize that if you are in a relationship that is a bit unconventional it is going to be difficult to talk about it with other people and to get the support system that you need to keep going. Sometimes you can feel like you are the only couple out there that is facing your current dilemma I am currently in a spot like this and I am feeling lonely. My husband is busy with his dating and chatting to friends about his future plans. I know that I should be patient, but every church that we have tried will teach you that it was OK for the profits to have more than one wife just read genesis if the bible is your answer.But on the other had they condemn plural marriage saying is is a sin I just don’t understand it. But it is still so unaccepted here in the US it is hard to find help and support groups that you can go to and hang out with. You know how singles have parties and clubs, people with children. It would just be great to go to a BBQ or something and not have to lie about who the members of your family were or only half of them get to go because of the family secret. It is not clear to me why we can bring grandpa (with a drinking problem) to an open bar wedding but not bring your whole family if you are in a plural marriage.
OK so I got off topic slightly what I was really going for was the fact that I am lonely and there is really no place or person that I can talk to that would understand or that I would even be able to click with because we have the marriage in common. I would love to have a pen pal from one of the communities that supports this type of marriage just so we can tell each other our feelings and bond a bit. I hate keeping secrets or having to lie so we have decided to tell out families and then it will be up to them to either withdraw or be supportive. But I want to be able to connect with a person going through some of the same things. If you have any ideas or you know of someone please have them e-mail me or comment my page. OK it is 3am here and I have to be at work at 6 so I should get going. Have a happy holiday season if I don’t chat with you till then.
